Screaming gripping all my friends shoes trying to hold them back but they start smoking anyways
If you’re considering smoking, don’t.
Take it from someone that’s lost several loved ones to smoking related diseases and watched someone die of lung cancer. You will be missed and it will be very painful on your way out. Any high you get from nicotine will fade completely eventually and all you’ll be left with is an addiction and not much else.
Don’t start. Whatever problem you’re trying to solve with nicotine, there’s other things that can help with it. Medication, therapy, chewing on pencils, caffeine pills. Find something that won’t fill you up with tar. You deserve to live a long life with clean lungs.
If you’re in a place in your life where you want to quit smoking, you can talk to your primary care doctor about it and they can hook you up with support and possibly meds to help wean you off. You don’t have to figure it out on your own.
i think that… approximately 100% of the time, parents, teachers, etc… have this misconception that neurodivergent kids & teens don’t know anything about how to handle their neurodivergence.
for years, i suffered through people making suggestions of things that were things i had done, and either weren’t worth the effort or they actually made things worse. i told them this, and if i was still having any issues with the same problem they’d say something about “well if you’re not gonna listen to any suggestions…” when I did. they’re the one who didn’t listen when i told them that doesn’t work for me. They assume that because I didn’t try it in front of them (which is often impossible), I never tried it. I tried doing my homework as soon as I got home. I tried doing my homework at the table, I tried working where I was comfortable. I tried listening to music, I tried working in silence. I tried using a planner, I tried setting reminders on my phone, I tried. I tell people that I have executive functioning issues and they say that I have to work on it like I haven’t been doing that as long as I’ve had to do things and it’s so much better than it was before. I’m as able as I am now because I’ve spent 18 years working on it.
One of my friends has ADHD, and at one point when her grades dropped her parents took her phone, despite her telling them that the only way she can focus on her homework is to listen to music, for which she needs her phone.
I was in a study hall with another friend, who also has ADHD. Sometimes, they would be able to focus and do their work. Others, they would end up being entirely unable to and would do other stuff. The “instructional support” person would start bothering them about it, insist that they try. As if they hadn’t already done so.
I am tired of watching people assume that neurodivergent people aren’t trying, or we haven’t tried. We’re always trying.
Fucking this
Also: after thirty-mumble years of living with autism, I CAN in fact usually tell right away when trying - trying AT THAT PARTICULAR TASK, AT THAT PARTICULAR TIME, IN THAT PARTICULAR WAY - is going to be useless. Just like someone who’d been living with chronic pain for an equal amount of time would be able to tell the difference between a “I can manage if I’m careful and conserve energy” day and a “not going to happen” day.
It’s not being “lazy” or “defeatist” or “not showing the right attitude”. It’s being unwilling to throw good energy after bad in order to satisfy some NT person’s need to make sure we’re “trying hard enough”.
I cannot tell you how helpful posts like these have been for me as I’ve been on the sidelines trying to cheer my depressed, ADHD, possibly neurodivergent child through life. I *know* he’s trying. It doesn’t always look like it, but I know he’s giving it everything he has. Sometimes that results in an hour of work on an art project with glorious progress, sometimes it means a shower, sometimes it means being ready for something on time, sometimes it means a day of playing kirby games. Whatever it is, and no matter how ‘easy’ it might be for me, it’s very obviously heavy work for him.
I wish I could do some of the lifting for him. All I can do is acknowledge his effort, regardless of the outcome.
Like, it’s one thing to remind me of a treatment I had completely forgotten about trying. It’s another to demand I try things I know I’ve already explained won’t work.
And it is indeed heavy. It’s exhausting. I tell my physical therapist and my pain clinician that sometimes I wind up sleeping all day just because the fatigue is overwhelming, and they just keep gently and kindly telling me that it is okay to rest, that my recover times will be completely different from neurotypicals and even other neurodivergents. They don’t think I’m self harming, they don’t think my insomnia is threatening, they know I’m the type of person to wake up at four in the morning to write something and get caught up in an hour of writing.
That’s all I want. To be assured that I’m not going to be punished for not fully performing my duties as a functioning member of society.
Does anyone remember what happened to Radio Shack?
They started out selling niche electronics supplies. Capacitors and transformers and shit. This was never the most popular thing, but they had an audience, one that they had a real lock on. No one else was doing that, so all the electronics geeks had to go to them, back in the days before online ordering. They branched out into other electronics too, but kept doing the electronic components.
Eventually they realize that they are making more money selling cell phones and remote control cars than they were with those electronic components. After all, everyone needs a cellphone and some electronic toys, but how many people need a multimeter and some resistors?
So they pivoted, and started only selling that stuff. All cellphones, all remote control cars, stop wasting store space on this niche shit.
And then Walmart and Target and Circuit City and Best Buy ate their lunch. Those companies were already running big stores that sold cellphones and remote control cars, and they had more leverage to get lower prices and selling more stuff meant they had more reasons to go in there, and they couldn’t compete. Without the niche electronics stuff that had been their core brand, there was no reason to go to their stores. Everything they sold, you could get elsewhere, and almost always for cheaper, and probably you could buy 5 other things you needed while you were there, stuff Radio Shack didn’t sell.
And Radio Shack is gone now. They had a small but loyal customer base that they were never going to lose, but they decided to switch to a bigger but more fickle customer base, one that would go somewhere else for convenience or a bargain. Rather than stick with what they were great at (and only they could do), they switched to something they were only okay at… putting them in a bigger pond with a lot of bigger fish who promptly out-competed them.
If Radio Shack had stayed with their core audience, who knows what would have happened? Maybe they wouldn’t have made a billion dollars, but maybe they would still be around, still serving that community, still getting by. They may have had a small audience, but they had basically no competition for that audience. But yeah, we only know for sure what would happen if they decided to attempt to go more mainstream: They fail and die. We know for sure because that’s what they did.
I don’t know why I keep thinking about the story of what happened to Radio Shack. It just keeps feeling relevant for some reason.
hi everyone. does anybody else miss something they can never return to. anyone else being swallowed whole by grief. anyone else clinging to love as a life preserver
It’s because turian’s don’t lie!!!! I’m pretty sure it’s like the most shameful thing their species can do!!! And Saren is so well respected the thought of him lying would never occurred to the council let alone his own people!!!! I can’t remember where I read this from but I think it was an art book or maybe it was that lore podcast that’s 90% ads (I don’t recommend looking for it) but turians as a culture do not lie! It’s just something that doesn’t happen unless they’re the lowest of the low and Saren it’s supposed to be the opposite of that.
